How to be Happier

This is Day Twenty Two in the 30 Days of Reinvention Video Series [#30DaysReinvention].

Live more in the now.

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Hey, it’s Rand,

We all want to be successful and happy, we all want to enjoy doing a great job, yet for the vast majority of people these remain amongst our most elusive goals.

 We flit between moments of illusory happiness and moments of dulling pain, glimpsing true joy in the eyes of others, yet very rarely in our own.

Overextension has become the norm: we are always on; always chasing deadlines; always checking in.

Even though happiness can feel ephemeral and elusive, there is a simple formula you can apply to increase the amount of time you are happy:

happiness is living in the now + being resilient

 Existing in the now, we are more attentive, engaged and at our happiest.

What can you do to increase you now time?

What can you do to exist more in the now?

Firstly, you can minimise the potential for distractions: by keeping an uncluttered workspace; by placing your mobile phone on silent and, while you are wanting to focus, by removing any form of email or social notification and abstaining from accessing any form of social media.

Secondly you can create more focus time by allocating  90 minute calendar slots to progressing your priority projects and then sticking to them.

Give each task your full attention and notice when your mind wanders, acknowledge that intruding thought, and return your mind to the task at hand.

And thirdly you can build a now practice.

 The more you practice being present, in the now, the better you will become at achieving a depth of focus.

As you build a regular practice of being in the now you will start to notice your compulsions to quickly check your email and your social media feed become weaker, you will start to notice that intruding thoughts won’t be as loud and they will arrive  less often and with less fanfare, and you will more easily be able to shuffle them on and stay focused.

When you find yourself at this point you will know that you have strengthened your ‘now’ practice.

Want to Exist in the Now, Be Happy and Less Stressed?

As revealed in my new book, Fierce Reinvention, there are three things you can do to increase your ‘now’ time.

Now time is good for you because it raises your happiness levels, helps you to de-stress and decreases the amount of negative chatter in your mind.

So let’s get started:

  1. Minimize the potential for distractions

Perhaps unsurprisingly, you can minimize the potential for distractions by keeping an uncluttered workspace, placing your mobile phone on silent and, while you are wanting to focus, removing any form of email or social notification and abstaining from accessing any form of social media.

  1. Create focus time

No doubt about it, you can create focus time by allocating calendar slots for progressing your prioritized projects and then sticking to them. Within these 90-minute slots make sure to take a 10-minute break mid way to stretch, look at the horizon and breathe in the world around you.

Give the task your full attention and notice when your mind wanders. Acknowledge the intruding thought and gently, but fiercely return your mind to the task at hand.

  1. Build a “now” practice

Wham! There is no end point you are trying to get to when practicing living in the now. It is all about building up to a regular practice of now-related behaviors.

And boom! You’re there: the more you practice being present, in the now, the better you will become at achieving this depth of focus.

The result? You may also start to notice the compulsions to ‘quickly check’ your email or your social media feed become weaker. As your practice grows the intruding thoughts won’t be as loud and they will arrive less often and with less fanfare, and you will easily be able to shuffle them on and stay focused. This indicates that you are positively shifting your behavior and strengthening your ‘now’ practice.

Taken from my new book, Fierce Reinvention: A Guide to Harnessing Your Superpowers for Entrepreneurial and Leadership Success ($11.99 digital, $15.99 print (USD), October 2017) is available from Amazon.

How to Find Your Soul Voice

This is Day Twenty One in the 30 Days of Reinvention Video Series [#30DaysReinvention].

Break the vicious cycle of busyness and delayed joy.

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Hey it’s Rand,

It can take months, even years to reinvent yourself.

The journey usually starts with a sense of the collapse of your ego structure.

Something much deeper within you seeks to voice itself. Think of this as your soul voice.

At this point you begin to recalibrate the structures that surround you. To align with your soul voice.

You may need to change:

  • your workplace
  • your community
  • your activities.

The catalyst for starting this journey may be a profound feeling of apathy; it may be a feeling of anger or even isolation.

Whatever it is that signals the breaking of the vicious cycle of busyness and delayed joy for you, you should welcome it with open arms.

My near death experience broke my vicious cycle: I still get goose bumps thinking about it; I was able to still my busy mind and focus inward; I peeled back layer upon layer, until all that remained was my inner voice; with constant exercise it became stronger, and as it did I became calmer and more attuned to the universe. For the first time, pure joy entered my life.

Be aware that the journey of reinvention can be a painful time, filled with confusion and fear; repressed feelings can flood into your consciousness; moments of uncertainty about the path forward can hinder your progress.

But it is such a worthwhile journey. Instead of being filled with your own joyless noise, you will begin to listen at a deeper level. And you will start to hear what the people around you are really saying.

Invest the time to determine what excites you; invest the time to determine what delivers you real meaning; work on that the rest of your life.

This work’s true value is fulfilment and inner joy. This work is priceless.

 

How to Deal With the Dark Side of Success

This is Day Twenty in the 30 Days of Reinvention Video Series [#30DaysReinvention].

Avoid the depressing effect of success by setting off on a meaningful quest and tackling your triggers.

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Hey it’s Rand,

Success can come with a dark side: successful people are more prone to depression and loneliness; success can act as a depressogen, causing depression.

Why is success such a lonely place?

Once we are successful, the Expectations don’t stop. They get higher.

This is true for our expectations and for the expectations placed on us by others.

Once we are successful the stakes get higher. There can be so much more at stake: there can be so many more people reliant on our continued success.

At any given time you are only ever a heartbeat away from failure, and the press love a rise and fall story.

Subconsciously, you may see or read of others who have fallen from grace and the pressure on you mounts up.

What can you do to deal with the dark side of success?

The first thing you can do is to embark on quest-centred therapy.

Figure out something you want to achieve, for example, being at peace with yourself. And then set off on a quest to achieve your objective. As you go, mark your journey and your progress with small wins.

Each of these wins will stave off the darkness in small amounts at first, but cumulatively the process of being involved with a quest that has meaning for you will help you deal with the dark side.

Secondly, instead of avoiding the dark times, explore them by delving into your past and present. Confront the fear wrapped in those dark moments and this will lead you to the third activity – tackling your negative triggers.

Sometimes things happen in our lives that for most people would be viewed as slightly or somewhat negative, but for some reason we view them as off the charts negative.

These are your negative triggers and when they are sparked they can send you into a downward spiral of negativity that can impact your entire life.

By exploring your dark side you become more aware of these triggers and  what sparks them off. Your aim should be to tackle them  as early as possible. Preferably before they start having an impact.

Four Key Reasons for Being Happy That Will Ensure Your Success

We’ve all been there: we want to be successful and happy, we want to enjoy doing a great job – yet for many people these remain amongst our most elusive goals. We flit between moments of illusory happiness and dulling pain, we glimpse true joy in the eyes of others, very rarely in our own. Yet at the same time, overextension has become the norm—we are always on, always chasing deadlines, always checking in.

Let’s dive in: happiness can be defined as an emotion of overarching positivity.

Remarkably, yet contrary to popular belief, happiness leads to success, not the other way around.

If you are constantly chasing success over happiness you will reach a point where you realise that outwardly defined success and the trappings of wealth often come with an inward tax in the form of burnout, isolation, and overwhelming stress. Sadly, this tax is incremental and you may not notice it until it is too late and their negative effects on your body and your performance are irreversible.

Think about it, you are far better off practising happiness and then finding success, rather than sacrificing happiness in the hope of achieving success. Put it another way, delayed gratification is not a wise strategy.

So it all adds up to this: happiness is important for four reasons:

  1. Improving emotional balance by providing a buffer against, and reducing, the

impact of stressors.

  1. Sparking connections in our brain that foster agility and creativity.
  2. Improving core body functions, such as cardiovascular flow, immune system

function, and inflammation reduction.

  1. Increasing the intensity of social interactions, in contrast to anxiety and

depression, which induce self-centeredness.

It’s that simple, get these four things right and your optimise your performance and, as a result, improve the probability that you will be successful.

But be warned: you may find yourself redefining what success looks like for you. You may find that fame, notoriety and material wealth become far less important to you than being happy and experiencing joy.

Find out how to follow your heart and find new happiness and fulfilment in my new book, Fierce Reinvention: A Guide to Harnessing Your Superpowers for Entrepreneurial and Leadership Success ($11.99 digital, $15.99 print (USD), October 2017) is available from Amazon.

 

How to Find Your Trajectory Trigger

This is Day Nineteen in the 30 Days of Reinvention Video Series [#30DaysReinvention].

Boost yourself onto a higher growth trajectory.

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Hey it’s Rand,

If things don’t work out for whatever reason, you have failed only if you don’t try again.

In your journey as a leader, you can expect to lower case fail many times

An upper case Fail would take place were you to check out, completely.

And so I’d argue there is Universal Failure Rule which states you will never Fail if you never give up.

You choose which side of the fine line you find yourself on – success or failure – by your courage in the face of both adversity and uncertainty and also how you choose to visualise yourself.

Do you see yourself succeeding or failing?

What factors determine which side of this fence you are on?

What if you removed those factors?

What if you reversed them?

  • I don’t have the skills
  • I have the skills
  • I don’t have the resources
  • I have abundant resources

Removed or reversed, would you still see yourself the same way?

Sometimes no matter what you do, you feel stuck: you feel like you are stagnating.

What can you do that will trigger an increase in velocity?

What can you do that will boost you on to a higher growth trajectory?

Your ego may want you to stay on your current path, but your soul has work to do.

Listen, carefully, for that quiet inner voice. It will identify what your trajectory trigger is.

That event which will empower you to step up to a whole new level.

It is no easy task to identify this trigger, but one trick is to do a little reverse engineering

What difference can you make in the world?

That would be a clear message that you are on a higher path?

Find that and it may point out what your trigger is.

How to Unleash Your Potential

Think about this for a moment. When we are young we dream impossible dreams, but as we get older these can be all but knocked out of us:  perhaps by societally induced constraints; perhaps by our parents’ ambitions for us, perhaps by our peer group’s limiting beliefs, perhaps by our inherited dogma, or perhaps by our upbringing.

You know the score: as we hit failures, feel pushed outside our comfort zone, and get older, we start to develop a series of self-limitations that can hold us back from using even more.

Sadly, we might believe we’ve missed the boat, that we’re not capable enough, or don’t have the right personality or social set to attain success.

Don’t worry. There’s a solution. The good news is that we are all born with the powers we need to achieve our absolute potential.

What if I could show you how to be fierce and harness your super powers to reinvent your life, and through them, achieve your absolute potential, as if born again, without constraints?

Would you be in?

Let me lead you through my new book, Fierce Reinvention: A Guide to Harnessing Your Superpowers for Entrepreneurial and Leadership Success ($11.99 digital, $15.99 print (USD), October 2017), which is available from Amazon.

How to Punch Through Failure

This is Day Eighteen in the 30 Days of Reinvention Video Series [#30DaysReinvention].

Adopt behaviors that make failure a learning exercise.

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Hey it’s Rand,

Don’t let fear prevent you from doing what you need to do to have an impact.

One of our biggest fears is the fear of failure. You need to comfortably face this fear and there are behaviours you should adopt to help you punch through failure.

Firstly, fail fast and succeed slow.

Don’t be afraid to experiment. Most successful leaders failed  multiple time before they had a success.

Robert Kiyosaki says, “Failure is part of the process of success. People who avoid failure also avoid success.”

Secondly, succeed and then fail.

A big success can hold us to a high bar of what success is. This can make us less open to failure. Put your ego aside, lower your benchmarks and be prepared to fail before your next success.

This will relieve the pressure, and allow you to iterate more with more chance of magic happening.

Winston Churchill said, “Success is not final, failure is not fatal.”

Thirdly, get into failure flow.

Be mindful of failure, because failing without learning is a wasteful exercise.

Try to be aware of what is happening as a project fails. If you are in failure flow you will see the elements that lead to failure as if in slow motion.

Henry Ford said, “The only real mistake is the one from which we learn nothing.”

Fourthly, only fail when you cannot succeed.

Let’s face it, failure sucks. It sets you back. It impacts the lives of people who believe in you. It impacts the lives of people who rely on you.

Have grit and persistence  and don’t choose failure as an easy way out when the going gets tough.

Fifthly, fail resiliently.

Get up, take the hit and move forward.

When you fail and I hope you will, how do you treat it?

Yep, your heard right: I want you to fail; I want you to fail often!

Why?

Because every failure brings you one step closer to success.

How you deal with each failure, big or small, determines whether you will succeed.

CS Lewis said, Failures are finger posts on the road to achievement.”

Want to Know the Secret to Avoiding Failure, Forever?

Want to learn how to never fail, ever again?

Do you want to learn the overarching or universal rule to never failing?

It all comes back to how we define failure and what we do when faced with a setback.

Deep down you know this is true: if things don’t work out, for whatever reason, we have failed only if we do not try again. And, sadly, sometimes things don’t work out multiple times in a row.

But boom! All it takes is for us to succeed once and we are seen as a success.

It’s simple. The universal rule to never failing is NEVER GIVE UP!

It really is that simple. As I discuss in my book, Fierce Reinvention, I define failure with a capital “F.” In our journey as leaders we can expect to lowercase fail many times. An uppercase Fail
would take place were we to check out, completely.

For many people the fear of failure holds them back from doing things. At best
such fear is self-limiting, at worst it can be debilitating. And that’s just sad.

What it all boils down to is that we don’t know why we are here, on Earth, but it’s not just to make money or have fun; we are all on rickety little boats that are motoring across the narrow expanse of time that is our lifespan; if we want to be successful then we’ve got to leave a wake behind us; if we take life too slow and steady we don’t create a wake and then what’s the point.

So what’s the answer? The secret to success is the realization that failure isn’t a big deal.

Unfortunately, we tend to get entangled in what we should and shouldn’t do. When we unravel this we formulate constraints on what can and can’t be done. They appear fact-like,
yet they are far from it. They only amount to conversations that we have in our
heads. The challenge is that we are having these conversations at such a rate that they seem to crystallize into facts.

But the silver lining is that as long as the solidifying conversations are driven by
positive, motivating thoughts then they are not a bad thing. It’s when we view fear-induced inner conversations as fact that we limit ourselves.

Be warned that without training and mindfully creating a different set of thoughts we can easily default to that negative conversation.

The truth is that we need to do all we can to banish negative thoughts; we need to do all we can to banish fear and focus on having a positive conversation in our heads. It seems overly simplistic but the cool thing is that we can change reality through the power of what we say to ourselves: as ourpositive thoughts and conversations crystallize into facts, we change reality by having these positive facts guide us, instead of the fearful ones.

You start by imagining a yes when you were expecting a no; you start by acting confident when youfeel nervous; and wham! You can reinvent yourself and become the person you want to be.

Here’s the secret: act like the person you want to be and success will triumph over failure. Remember that success and failure are far from random; they live within the very DNA of our
character and personality; they are expressed through our thoughts and actions.

All in all, we choose which side of the fine line we find ourselves on—success or
failure—by our courage in the face of both adversity and uncertainty and
also how we choose to visualize ourselves.

My new book, Fierce Reinvention: A Guide to Harnessing Your Superpowers for Entrepreneurial and Leadership Success ($11.99 digital, $15.99 print (USD), October 2017) is available from Amazon.

How to Behave Successfully in the Face of Failure

This is Day Seventeen in the 30 Days of Reinvention Video Series [#30DaysReinvention].

Surround yourself with failure and embrace it.

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Hey it’s Rand,

Success and failure are far from random.

They live within the DNA of our character and personality.

Success and failure are expressed through our thoughts and actions.

Both success and failure are subjective and depend a lot on  your mindset, your expectations and whether you react positively or negatively to a situation you are presented with.

How does your society define success?

How does your society define failure?

Does your personal definition of success and failure differ from that of your society?

Do you view disappointment as a natural part of expansion?

When you fall short recognise this not as failure, but as an integral part of the cycle and journey to success.

Disappointment is an inevitability if you are courageous enough to moonshot.

When you do fail, make sure you get back on the horse and keep riding.

Success with failure comes down to how you behave in the face of failure.

Failures are a form of feedback. They are never total failures because they show you what you shouldn’t do and what you should do better.

When you fail the first thing you should do is: Celebrate, because you are one step closer to understanding what works and what doesn’t.

And then the second thing you should do is systematise what you do with failures. Create a way of extracting the key learnings from ongoing failures so that they bring you closer and closer to success.

Failure may not be what you wake up every day hoping for, but successful leaders surround themselves with failure and embrace it.