One of the most thought provoking questions I’ve received is whether I can help people cheat death.
Are you coaching people on how to cheat death?! If so, shut up and take my money.
Cheating death implies there is a grand design and order that predetermines the specific moment and manner in which you will die. The universe is far more subtle than that. It is not overly concerned with you and your sense of self. The universe doesn’t care if your ego lives or dies, if you are happy or suffering. But it does have an order to how it operates. Once you are on the final runway of life it would take a significant force to redirect your energy back to our reality and bring you back from the brink. Let’s call this a life force multiplier.
I do believe my transformational coaching can help you to harness that force. I believe I can assist you to understand the energies at play. When the time comes, you will know what to do to create your life force multiplier. You can then choose to ‘cheat’ death for a higher purpose.
Let’s use an example to delve deeper.
You are seen by your peers as a great leader who has already made it. But if at any point in your life you had taken the time to really stop and think about it, deep down you would know you could do better. But now it’s too late. You know you haven’t stepped up enough, and disappointment pervades your moment of death. You could’ve done more. You could’ve faced death satisfied you had done your best to make the world a better place. Instead you slip away surrounded by defeat and regret. This is a very confronting thought.
In that moment of death comes pure clarity and you know, without a doubt that you could have avoided that feeling of disappointment by:
* tackling your challenges head on,
* confronting your fear of the unknown,
* dealing with the complexities that surrounded you.
Had you stepped up earlier, embraced your greatness, done all you could and given your best, there are two possible outcomes at that moment of death:
1. You could move on to the next realm with a smile on your face. Sometimes it is a person’s time to go and c’est la vie; or
2. Whatever affliction or situation threatened to kill you, you could turn things around, fight it from the depth of your soul and make it back – your determination to continue your great work radically boosts your inner strength and your life force multiplier kicks in, you achieve flow and pull yourself back from the brink.
There have been numerous accounts of near death experiences in which people have come back filled with an overriding desire to make the world a better place. In my case I faced overwhelming odds, but as I recovered I knew with absolute certainty: I had done so to change the world.
I had done so to change the world.
How do you get to be in such a position where you have the inner strength to effectively ‘cheat’ death in order to achieve more?
This is not about your ego, your sense of self, or what defines you. You need to be working on things that totally resonate with you at your deepest level. You need to be totally focused on your soul work. And this is where my role as a transformational coach kicks in. We spend time finding what resonates with you and finding your purpose. We work through any blockages to you achieving your goals and then developing a plan of action. I am there for you on your journey as you execute on your goals. I have your back. I act as a sounding board and a trusted advisor, because your board of directors is not there for you in this capacity.
Where are you positioned on the Life Purpose Spectrum?
How purposefully you live your live can be measured on a continuum. We can call this the Life Purpose Spectrum.
If you are placed at the far left of this spectrum your life has no purpose. Perhaps at some point you felt it did, but your priorities have shifted. A common example is that you realize your role leading your organization no longer resonates with you.
If you are placed on the opposite end of the continuum, the far right of the spectrum, your life is filled with purpose. To continue the above example, you may have found your purpose again by transforming your organization, changing its business model to be more relevant to a more engaged customer ecosystem. Or you may have moved on to another organization that better reflects what you find important in life.
Take a moment and ask yourself,
“Where do I sit on the spectrum?”
Write your answer down.
Now think about people who participate in death-defying activities. Your first thought is probably that they are off the continuum, that they are at the far, far right of the spectrum. That may well be the case, but it is their mindset that I want to highlight. Their mindset is instructive for you as a leader as you think deeper about where you truly sit on the Life Purpose Spectrum.
Consider Loic Jean-Albert. He is a proximity flier. That means he dons a $2500 wing suit and jumps off mountains. After an initial free fall of a few hundred meters to achieve optimal acceleration speed, his suit inflates. He then hurtles downwards at a speed of more than 50 meters a second. The smallest error can be catastrophic. He has had a lot of friends die – he isn’t playing golf.
But for him it is life, it is living – in a Newsweek article he says that he watched his grandmother die of cancer in bed and he found that horrific.
“I can’t imagine anything worse. What is important is how you live. Death is inevitable. I don’t care how or where I die. Those details are not relevant. And who knows, death might just be one of the most beautiful things that we get to experience.”
For him it is all about purpose. If he is following his true purpose then whether he lives or dies is neither here nor there.
“We are evolving, through technology and through skill. I liken what we’re doing in proximity flying to the first animals that left the water. We are evolving and growing. And becoming stronger. What else is the purpose of life?”
Another proximity flier, Ellen Brennan, points out that for her it is all a question of what you want from your life.
“Do you want to go work your ass off, never get out of that hole and exist knowing that this is all that you’ll ever have, apart from maybe two week’s vacation in Florida every summer? Because that’s not what I want. I want to do things that people tell me I can’t do. And that domestic grind, to me, is not life. I want to live.”
Now ask yourself again,
“Where do I sit on the spectrum?”
Write your answer down. Does it differ from your initial answer? If you are truthful to your inner soul and find yourself further left on the spectrum than you initially thought, you’ve got some work to do.