How we fail when everyone is trying to succeed determines whether we will achieve success through failure.
Failure may not be what we wake up every day hoping for, but as a coach to successful leaders I have noticed that those who surround themselves with and embrace failure are the ones more likely to succeed.
Here are 7 behaviours you can use to punch through failure:
1. Fail Fast, Succeed Slow: Don’t be afraid to experiment. Most successful business leaders failed multiple time before they had a success.
“Failure is part of the process of success. People who avoid failure also avoid success.” – Robert Kiyosaki
2. Succeed And Then Fail: A big success can hold you a high bar of what success is. This can make you less open to failure Put your ego aside, lower your benchmark and be prepared to fail before your next success. You will then be able to iterate more, with less pressure should you fail.
“Success is not final, failure is not fatal.” – Winston Churchill
3. Get Into Failure Flow: Be failure mindful as failing without learning is a wasteful exercise. Be aware of what is happening as an initiative fails. In failure flow you will be receptive to seeing the elements that lead to failure as if in slow motion.
“The only real mistake is the one from which we learn nothing.” – Henry Ford
4. Process Failure: Use a framework to analyse what happened after the fact. Who was responsible? What was the failure algorithm? Is it repeatable or preventable.? What data would make it preventable?
“You build on failure. You use it as a stepping stone.” – Johnny Cash
5. Only Fail When You Cannot Succeed: Failure sucks. It sets you back. It impacts the lives of people who believed in and relied on you. Have grit and persistence and don’t choose failure as an easy way out when the going gets tough.
“Giving up is the only sure way to fail.” – Gena Showalter
6. Fail Resiliently: Get up, take the hit and move forward. When you fail, and I sincerely hope you will, how do you treat it? Every failure is one step close to success. How you deal with each failure, big or small, determines whether you will succeed.
“Failure are finger posts on the road to achievement.” – C.S. Lewis
7. Feeling like a failure is not failing: Many successful people feel like failures. Decouple your feelings from external perceptions of success or failure. Seek alignment with what success looks like to you, don’t rely on outside assurances. Reconnect with your feelings and drop the narrative you want to create for them.
“What is the point of being alive if you don’t at least try to do something remarkable?” – John Green